Having appeared as a presenter, performer, and educator at over 50 kink events around the world, I am a genuine expert in the kink field!
Is there something that turns you on that most don't know about? Are you looking to have a quality kink experience? You've come to the right place! I have been involved in the BDSM community for many years and have had the honor of presenting, performing, and teaching at some of the best events in the world. I've given presentations in over 20 states from coast to coast!
Frequently Asked Questions
A: It is a combination of three abbreviations: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. BDSM play covers a spectrum of activities that fall into these categories.
A: I'm a switch. This is someone equally comfortable being the dominant or the submissive in a BDSM scene. This makes me very flexible for a wide range of BDSM activities.
A: In BDSM culture, a kink and a fetish are two words for the same thing: something that turns you on that's outside of the "norm", such as hair pulling, scratching, pegging, feet, humiliation, bondage restraints, etc. Pedants may define kink as "something you do" and a fetish as "an unusual attribute you find attractive."
A: Most of my clients come to me for domination. This is something I enjoy doing. I'm a true FemDom - I can get into your head, and make you feel owned.I am skilled with/at floggers, paddles, whips, crops, canes, foot worship, cock and ball torture, ruined orgasms, and many other things. I am also trained in Shibari or Japanese rope bondage.That said, ask! You'd be surprised at what I know...
A: Safewords are a safety measure used in BDSM scenes. They are there to keep us safe. I use the stoplight safewords: GREEN, YELLOW, RED. Green means all is good, and what is happening feels good to you. Yellow means slow down, things are a bit too much but don't stop. Red means a complete stop of the scene.
At any time during out party, regardless of the activity, you can simply say 'red' and things will stop. I use 'red' rather than 'no' because some people enjoy struggling during play. This may involve saying things like 'no, please stop' without the person actually wanting things to stop.
Q: How do I talk to you about kink and BDSM?
A: Honestly and openly! Contrary to many popular depictions of BDSM, healthy kink relationships begin with deep negotiations first. Due to the intense emotions and sensations BDSM can bring up, I insist on having open and honest conversations before BDSM scenes.Some of the questions I may ask include:
- What you're interested in and why
- Your experience level
- Any medical issues or medications you're taking
- Your dislikes (limits in BDSM-speak)
I'm a very open and accepting person, and there are no "weird" or "unusual" kinks! I'm very interested in what you have in mind for our meeting.
Q: How do you know so much about BDSM/ Kink?
A: I'm a BDSM and kink educator. Outside of the ranch, I travel around the country presenting and teaching people how to safely engage in BDSM activities.
Q: So why should I have my kink/BDSM party with you?
A: I am an expert - this means that my skills are top quality. I also am trained in the safety aspects of BDSM, and can ensure your physical safety while we play. I know exactly how hard or how soft to play, and am very skilled at getting into your head. You will feel like a true dominant or submissive with me!
Q: What toys do you have with you?
A: I have floggers, crops, blindfolds, paddles, a gag, nipple clamps, rope, and so much more! If there is a specific item you would like to play with, feel free to bring it with you.