Sex Position #1: For a Sex Toy-Friendly Position, Try Double-Penetration Missionary
Number one on our list today is the very well known missionary (penetrating partner on top, usually lying on a bed) with a twist: adding a butt plug for that double penetration sensation. You get extra credit if you both use butt plugs.
Not into butt plugs? Try the spooning position, where both partners lie on their sides, with the penetrating partner behind the receiving partner. This setup gives the penetrating partner a free arm to use a Magic Wand vibrator or a penis stroker on the receiving partner.
Sex Position #2: For a Threesome-Friendly Position, Try an Eiffel Tower Variation
Lose your threesome virginity this year in the most fun way possible. In this position, the penetrating partner lies on their back. One person sits gently on their face, receiving oral sex, while the other person rides them. Bonus: the two partners on top can make out if they so choose. Just remember not to switch it around so that you’re not at risk for cross-contamination!
Or, to take the focus off of penetration, two of the partners can lie on their sides and make out while the third partner fingers them—one partner with each hand. This position is an excellent variation for folks with erectile dysfunction or a way for threesomes that don’t involve a male partner to include everyone in a super sexy way.
Sex Position #3: For a Pegging-Friendly Position, Try a Doggy-Style Alternative
Have the receiver get on their knees, with the person wearing a harness ready to peg behind them. This position is ideal for first-timers since they can back up slowly onto the dildo at their own pace without feeling rushed. Always start with a lubed up finger before moving on to anything larger.
Just a friendly reminder that pegging has nothing to do with sexual orientation; no one is gay because they enjoy pegging, or not gay if they do not enjoy pegging. But, if your partner is nervous about the phallic-ness of it all, grab a pegging kit with a dildo that’s not hyper-realistic, like this great toy from Tantus. And remember, men, you can experience an entirely new kind of orgasm from this activity—a prostate orgasm. So, if you don’t try it, you may be missing out on something incredible.
If you prefer to watch your partner’s glee while you’re inside them, have your partner lie on their back with their legs up while you enter them. This can up the intimacy factor, too.
Sex Position #4: For a Kink-Friendly Position, Try Standing Rear Entry
If, like LL Cool J, conventional methods of makin’ love kinda bore you, try some positions that are friendly to kink. Kink and BDSM are far-reaching, diverse terms within the sexual universe, and the list of specific kinks that people like is vast. No sex positions technically count as kinky unless power play or other kink or fetish is involved. So pick a particular fantasy before determining which sex position would be hottest for you and your partner—and make sure it’s a kinky one. If you were interested in hair-pulling and spanking, you would probably like a position that’s different from someone interested in teasing and orgasm denial. That said, peruse from the prompts below to get your creative juices flowing.
Standing rear entry is the perfect choice for first-time doms. If your partner is flexible and excited about the idea, have them bend over and fasten their wrists somewhere around their ankles with rope or scarves. Then, you can peg or penetrate them with abandon, with the added advantage that they won’t be able to see if you’re blushing while you bark out some racy orders.
Next up is kinky sex in a chair—a lovely option for those in a wheelchair. Fasten the seated partner’s hands to the armrests or behind the chair, and then climb on top to ride them.
Sex Position #5: For an Oh-So-Intimate Position, Try the Lotus
Popularized by the tantric sex movement, the lotus might be the most intimate sex position out there. The penetrating partner sits cross-legged (or straight-legged), and the receiving partner sits on top, facing their partner, and crosses their ankles behind their partner’s back. Try starting naked in this position and synchronize your breathing for a few minutes before grinding against each other. You can gradually move toward penetration, but for expert-level tantric sex, try postponing orgasm for as long as possible. Take breaks for water and high-fives when you get too close to climax, and then start in again with a different sexy activity.
Another position that’s thoroughly intimate? Mindful, mutual masturbation while lying down fits the bill. Take some time to watch your partner pleasure themself this year. Relax, maybe use some CDB lube, and spend some time climaxing together, separately. Not only can you learn a lot about what your partner likes, but it also is an insanely hot visual for you to fondly reminisce about after the fact. Touch areas you don’t usually, and focus on spots that you typically neglect in order to bump up the mindfulness dynamic. For your first time, try facing each other in bed. Feeling bold? Sit on the couch, look each other straight in the eye, and spread your legs.
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